A woman found out a secret about her husband three years after their wedding and the Internet considers this a reason for divorce.

In a recent Reddit post shared on the popular subreddit “Am I the Asshole?”, the wife explained that many people had previously referred to her husband’s ex-girlfriend as “the one who got away.” She said that her husband ended the relationship because he didn’t see a future with her, which “shocked” his close friends and family at the time.

“Then we met and I soon understood that everyone on his side favored her,” the woman wrote on Reddit. She explained that her husband “never gave her a reason to doubt him” and that “he knew exactly what he wanted,” so much so that he told her he loved her just a few months into their relationship.

She continued: “He is fully aware of what people think about him leaving his ex and he has given the impression that he thinks she is silly and childish. He has told his mother that I am the one he chose and if she wants to be a part of this she needs to get her act together.”

The couple have been married for three years and welcomed their first child together, but things changed when her mother-in-law came to visit their newborn daughter. Her husband’s mother made an offhand comment, saying she wondered “what would have happened if he had changed his mind about his ex-girlfriend” and whether she would be looking at the ex’s baby instead.

While the husband responded to the comment by “telling his mother to shut up,” he then confessed to his wife that he had dated his ex-girlfriend shortly before the wedding. “He wanted to make sure she wasn’t what everyone around him thought, the one who ran away from him. He wanted to be 100 percent sure,” she wrote.

After the news came out, the woman revealed that she hadn’t spoken to her husband in a week. “It’s not something I’m doing to punish him. Or manipulate him. Or get the upper hand and control him. I just can’t look at him or talk to him,” she concluded the post, before asking if she was in the wrong for giving her husband the “silent treatment.”

In the comments, many pointed out that her mother-in-law probably mentioned the date on purpose, while others said she was not wrong for ignoring her husband.

“Why can’t people just be honest? If he told you he had lunch with his ex before your wedding, would you still marry him? If he explained himself, would you feel like a slob or that he has doubts about his love for you?” asked one commenter. “I know what I would do personally, but everyone is different. Do family and friends talk to you about their disappointment in his marriage all the time when you’re not there? No one wants to look stupid. I certainly don’t.”

Another commenter agreed, writing, “His mother did this to you on purpose at one of your most sensitive and vulnerable moments. She knew what she was doing and it was crucial. What your husband did was disgusting. How do you even know something didn’t happen between the two of them?”

“You know he wouldn’t tell you anyway in this case because he never told you about the date,” they added. “I think if you have a support system yourself, it’s time to see if you can maybe stay with them for a little bit to clear your head. These people are snakes and your husband is one of them.”