A wedding singer wonders if it is wrong to cancel her gifted performance at a friend’s upcoming wedding after a heated argument with the bride and groom.

The artist shared details of her situation on a popular Reddit page, explaining that she was originally asked to be a bridesmaid at her longtime friend’s wedding planned for next summer. As a wedding gift to the couple, the woman delighted the bride by offering to serenade her with her band.

“We’ve played for free for friends and family before and offered to play a set and get food in return. She was very (excited) about the idea,” noted the author of the post.

As she further explained in her post, the singer later got into a “huge argument” with the groom at the engagement party. The argument resulted in her being excluded from the event and the wedding party. She was subsequently disinvited from the entire wedding, a decision the Reddit poster understood.

“It’s okay,” she wrote. “I couldn’t pretend to be happy for them at the wedding. It’s their day. If they don’t want me there, that’s okay.”

Since her wedding invitation was revoked, the woman assumed she was no longer expected to deliver her gift. The bride, however, expected something different.

“My former girlfriend (her words) insisted that since they had ‘booked’ us, we were obligated to perform at their wedding. For free,” the professional wedding singer shared on the forum. “I told her that we only perform for friends and family for free and that they would even pay for accommodation, travel and provide us with food at the event.”

She continued: “If she wants us to perform, it will be the usual fee as we are not friends. We have the option to take on the wedding, but we are not doing this for free.”

As a result, the post said, the bride has been speaking badly about her former bridesmaid to her wider circle of friends. The singer wrote that their mutual friends believe the wedding band should perform for free “to keep the peace,” but the woman is still hesitant to “give an expensive gift to someone who no longer considers them friends.”

The general consensus among Reddit replies favors the wedding singer’s stance, not the bride’s demands.

“The agreement to take on the role was based on a friendship that has since ended,” one anonymous user responded. Another agreed: “Since she excluded you from the wedding, it’s fair to expect the usual fee for your services. It’s not unreasonable to set boundaries here.”

One comment suggested a possible solution would be to offer a performance at a “reduced price” in order to “keep the peace” without undermining the singer’s point of view.

Another person clearly sided with the author, advising her to cut all ties with the event: “Tell your ex-girlfriend you’re canceling her nonexistent contract with your band and giving her back the $0 deposit. Text her that and stop talking to her about it,” she wrote, adding, “She has a whole year to find an alternative. It’s ridiculous of her to think you’d still do that for her, let alone for free!”