‘The slit is really, really high’ – People criticise guest for ‘body-hugging, low-cut’ dress that is ‘too sexy for a wedding’
When it comes to choosing a dress as a wedding guest, there are a number of unspoken rules.
A woman’s choice sparked criticism on all aspects of her clothing, from style to color.
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In a Reddit post, user Wateraerobics_ shared a picture of the dress she planned to wear to a wedding.
She posed in a figure-hugging red dress with spaghetti straps, a plunging neckline and a thigh slit.
“I’m going to my friend’s cousin’s wedding in St. Louis in November,” the poster explained.
She clarified that the event had a black tie dress code, which made her question whether the look was “appropriate.”
While red is often considered a no-go at weddings, Reddit users pointed out a number of other problems.
“To say the least, that thigh slit is really, really high for a wedding,” one person wrote.
“This is made even more difficult by the fact that it is a body-hugging silhouette.
“That, combined with the color, which some people, especially in the South, find controversial, and the fact that it’s relatively low-cut, makes me personally just look for something else.”
“It’s too sexy for a wedding. The slit is just too high,” another reader agreed.
“It’s a bit too sexy in my opinion. Also, you might want to avoid red because in some cultures it’s reserved only for the bride,” commented a third Redditor.
Another superstition says that guests who wear red at a wedding have an intimate relationship with the groom.
Other Reddit users suggested saving the look for another occasion.
“Good for New Year’s Eve. The low neckline paired with the color and high slit make it less appropriate for a wedding. I’d keep looking,” one person wrote.
“Yes, it’s great for a black tie event, but not for a wedding,” agreed another reader.
“The high slit (and) the low neckline reveal more than is appropriate for a wedding.
Dos and Don’ts of Wedding Dress Code
By Josie Griffiths, Deputy Editor of Fabulous and bride-to-be.
Josie Griffiths said: “I will never forget the wedding I attended in October 2022 where a guest wore a white dress.”
It was ill-fitting, knee-length, and didn’t look like a proper wedding dress at all, but that didn’t stop everyone from judging her.
The rules for what a wedding guest should wear – which are unfortunately much stricter for women than for men – are intended to ensure that you don’t steal the show from the bride, but in reality that’s quite difficult to do on someone else’s wedding day.
But if you do it wrong as a guest, you end up looking a bit ridiculous, especially in front of a lot of people who don’t know you personally.
It’s just not the right occasion for your new white dress, even if online stores like to dump it in the “wedding guests” section.
I would avoid anything too tight/short and avoid super formal evening dresses unless the dress code requires them – you don’t want to wear a floor-length sequin dress to a smart-casual event.
Personally, I don’t like black dresses either, it’s not a funeral.
Otherwise, you should be pretty safe. Technically, wearing red means you’re in love with the groom, but that’s the kind of rule most people would scoff at these days.
I always check what color the bridesmaids are wearing, just to be sure. After the Spanish wedding, I saw her walk down the aisle in the exact same dress that I had in my Asos shopping basket just weeks before.
If in doubt, it’s best to ask the bride again… but if you’re already having doubts about your dress, this may be the only answer you need.
“It looks great and has a sensual aura, so feel free to wear it on other occasions too.
“I definitely wouldn’t wear this to a family wedding,” said one commenter.
“It’s too busy here for evening wear to be OK,” noted another reader.
“It’s too tight, too bright, too low-cut, the slit is too high and I cast a sideways glance at the fabric.
“For black tie you need elegance, good fabric, clean lines, balance and one or two interesting features.
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