Dear Eric: One of my closest friends recently passed away. I have also been friends with her husband since their wedding, where I was a bridesmaid. Next month is their 50th wedding anniversary. It breaks my heart that “Lou” will not have his wife, my friend, here to celebrate with him.

Is it appropriate for me to send him an anniversary card? I think this milestone should be acknowledged in some way, and it might bring him joy to know that I remember him. He has a close family and I’m sure their children will recognize the date too, but I want to recognize it myself. We are all grieving.

– Friend in mourning

Dear friend: I’m so sorry you lost your friend. I’m sure Lou would love to hear from you and the warm memories of that special anniversary would even cheer him up. Send a card or call him if you feel like it. You’ve both lost someone who meant a lot to you so this could be an opportunity to connect and heal and share moments, both happy and difficult. When we lose loved ones, it helps to know that others miss them too.