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A mother was criticized after her son “ruined” the bridal cake at a wedding.

In a recent post shared on the popular Am I the Asshole? section, a woman asked if she was in the wrong for not apologizing to her best friend, who yelled at her and her child at their wedding. The woman then explained what happened, noting that she, her husband, and their four-year-old son were at her friend’s wedding.

She shared some of her friendship with the bride, noting that her friend was initially unsure whether or not she wanted a child-free wedding. Even though her friend’s sisters also have children, the bride still wanted to be able to “let go and enjoy her wedding without having to worry about kids messing everything up.” However, after talking about it with her friend and siblings, the bride and groom ultimately decided to invite children to the wedding.

According to the Reddit user, the wedding ceremony itself went quite well, as her husband and her best friend’s nieces sat with her. “I organized quiet activities to keep them entertained and everyone behaved. I even cried because it was so beautiful,” she wrote.

She explained that after the bride and groom’s first dance during the reception, guests were asked to go to the dance floor before the cake was cut, at which point her son was there having fun with the other children.

“The kids were running around and playing with each other. It was a pretty safe place and I knew almost everyone there, so I felt comfortable having my son play with the other kids while my husband and I had fun dancing,” the Reddit user added.

However, when it was time to cut the cake, the woman and her husband “got there a little slow” so that “a crowd blocked their view.” From there, they heard the bride yelling at her friend’s four-year-old son, who had interrupted the cake-cutting ceremony, which led to an argument between the two friends.

“My husband and I keep walking to see what’s going on. I see my son with frosting around his mouth and on his fingers,” she wrote. “A small piece has broken out of the cake. I try to apologize but my best friend turns around and screams, ‘This is YOUR FAULT. Your son DESTROYED my cake. He’s only here because YOU told me it was worth getting the kids involved!’ I scream back and tell her it was just an accident and the rest of the cake is still edible.”

Although the woman told her friend that she had yelled at her nephew, the bride responded that the Reddit user was “not a friend (of hers) and (the four-year-old) was not (her) nephew.” The woman was then told to leave or the bride would call security. The family of three then left the event.

The mother said the bride’s sister contacted her after the wedding and “apologized” for the newlyweds’ reaction to the four-year-old boy eating the cake. However, the Reddit user was still asked to apologize, which she refused to do.

“I think there is no room for apologies after her outburst. I told her sister and told her that I expected an apology before I said anything to her,” she concluded. “Not only did she lash out at me in front of everyone, but she also lashed out at my son. I feel humiliated, but I’m even more angry because of him.”

The Reddit post quickly went viral, garnering more than 5,500 upvotes. In the comments, several people criticized the mother, claiming she should have supervised her son at the wedding—before he took a bite of the cake—and she should apologize to the bride.

“Your child is very young and needs to be supervised. It doesn’t matter how safe the place is, there are many things that are NOT safe there (like cakes, glasses, etc.),” ​​wrote one. “Not only should you apologize, you should have apologized right then and there instead of responding with ‘The rest of the cake is still edible’… and ‘It was an accident.’ It was not an accident. Your child is young, so it wasn’t malicious, but it certainly wasn’t an accident.”

“Your son taking a big bite of the wedding cake was not an accident. He did it because he wanted some cake and didn’t want to wait,” wrote another. “He is four but you could have told him not to touch the cake. This would have been avoided if you had supervised him properly. You need to apologize to your friend for your son ruining the wedding cake and being so careless. Parents like you who let their children run wild and then don’t take real responsibility are why so many people don’t want children at events like this.”

“She allowed kids because you assured her it would be OK to have kids at the wedding. It’s especially egregious when the person who said kids should be there is the one whose child messed up her wedding reception. That’s a big deal,” wrote a third. “This is a one-time event. You’re an asshole for not watching your kids after blabbing about having kids at the wedding. And even worse for not apologizing.”