DEAR MISS MANNERS: We have been friends with a couple for about 30 years. We have watched their children grow into beautiful young ladies, and they have watched ours grow into adults. We are very close to the couple, but not so close to their children.

In 2021, during COVID, her youngest daughter got married in a small private ceremony in her backyard. There were only about 15 people in attendance. Since we are very close to our friends, we gave her daughter and her new husband a financial wedding gift even though we were not invited to her wedding. The daughter and her new husband did not acknowledge the gift.

Fast forward to the present: We are invited to a celebration of her wedding. My question is, should we give another gift?

DEAR READER: This couple has been married for three years and you’ve already given them a wedding gift. Miss Manners isn’t aware that a “they’re still married” gift is necessary.

Or maybe you like the parents so much and have such fond memories of your daughter’s childhood that you want to do something special. While there is no need to give a gift, it is not forbidden to do so either.

(Please send your questions to Miss Manners on her website, www.missmanners.com; to your email, [email protected]; or by mail to Miss Manners, Andrews McMeel Syndication, 1130 Walnut St., Kansas City, MO 64106.)