A newlywed man “upset” his wife when he decided to send a group of wedding performers home in the middle of the reception – after realizing that the band’s singer was his ex-girlfriend from 15 years ago.

A Reddit user shared his wedding story on the site’s popular “Am I the A—— (AITA)” forum, asking if he was wrong to ban the wedding band his wife had hired from the middle of their performance.

The groom, who remains anonymous, revealed in his post that he had gotten married the day before and that “it wasn’t until we were called to the first dance” that he realized that the band’s singer was his ex-girlfriend from high school.

Ultimately, his wife was “responsible for the music of the day,” he explained, noting that she “didn’t know much about my ex-girlfriends.” Still, he said he “couldn’t help but just focus on the fact” that his ex was performing at their first dance.

“She never told me what she booked and I never asked,” the groom wrote of the wedding planning. “I asked her why she chose that band. She said she contacted an entertainment agency, saw her ex’s portfolio, which was good and within her budget, and booked them.”

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During the reception, the groom told his wife that he had previously had a relationship with the wedding singer and said that he was “uncomfortable” in her presence.

“She said it was a strange coincidence and told me, ‘Why is that a problem, it was a long time ago,'” he wrote. “I told her yes, but it bothers me. My wife then said it was just music and not to make a big deal out of it as the band was doing a good job. I told her I wanted to talk to the band.”

Despite his wife’s request, the groom wrote that he spoke with his high school girlfriend – who was “very professional” and didn’t know it was his wedding when she agreed to perform – before asking her to “be ready and leave in the next 30 minutes.” The groom added that she and the band seemed “shocked,” but he agreed not to ask for a refund since he made the decision the same day.

He went on to write that his wife was “furious” about the situation and “kept asking me why it was such a big deal over an ex” – and whether he “still had feelings for (the ex).”

“I said no, that’s absurd, but I felt uncomfortable being reminded of my past relationship at the worst possible time,” the groom wrote. “She told me I was wasting her money. I told her we could get another DJ with the help of the venue, which I would pay in full. She told me that was just another waste of money because ‘my feelings are too fragile and I can’t see the bigger picture.'”

“After the band left, I went straight to the venue manager to sort things out…long story short, (everything) was sorted out…The DJ did a good job, the guests seemed to be having fun and didn’t notice (the music change), but my wife did NOT like it at all,” the groom concluded his post. “After it was all over, she went straight to bed at the hotel.”

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There was general agreement in the comments that the groom was indeed in the wrong, with some Reddit users writing that he ruined his “own wedding over nothing” and “unilaterally decided that your brand new wife should just settle for a lesser musical option because you can’t handle a non-theme.”

“I wouldn’t marry someone as fragile as you. You ruined your wife’s wedding day,” was the most upvoted comment. “You were pretty selfish for only thinking about yourself. Trust me, you’ll be hearing about this for years to come (and you should).”

“It’s been 15 years,” wrote another user. “You made a decision unilaterally without consulting YOUR PARTNER. AT YOUR WEDDING, where you apparently weren’t that involved in the planning. Now start groping.”