One person was stunned when her friend “disinvited” her from her overseas wedding – after she shelled out more than $1,000 for an overseas flight.

In a recent post shared to Reddit on Sunday, August 25, the prospective guest, who was somewhere in North America, explained that the bride-to-be and her friend from college told them about a year ago to save the date for their upcoming wedding in Asia. The guest had recently booked his plane tickets, but was dismayed to receive a message “today” from his friend, effectively rescinding the wedding invitation.

“Hey guys, I’m so sorry to tell you this but I don’t have any accommodation left for you for the wedding. I’m really sorry, I hope you haven’t booked tickets yet,” read the bride-to-be’s message, sent in a group chat that included some of her other college friends.

The poster’s author explained that they had “spent over $1,000 on tickets” and decided to share their dilemma with the bride-to-be via private message.

The message read: “Hey, I booked my tickets and everything just three days ago because our agent knew and found something (I think the rest didn’t, no idea). I’m going to try to cancel but I don’t think I can. I understand space was limited for family and stuff so it’s fine, don’t worry.”

The bride-to-be responded, saying that “the hotel staff is not lenient on accommodations,” but that she might be able to “figure something out” if her friend is unable to cancel the plane tickets. However, the bride-to-be oddly asked the Reddit poster not to tell the rest of her friend group that she was trying to help.

The writer explained that the whole situation left them feeling “gross.” First of all, they said that they “feel so ashamed because I already told my friends and family that I’m invited to a wedding in a foreign country, and it’s so embarrassing to tell people that I’m not invited.”

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They were also worried that their other friends would feel terrible because I was allowed to go (to the wedding) and they weren’t.

The author wrote that he wished the bride-to-be had at least sent wedding invitations to her friends, even though they couldn’t find room for her in the chosen accommodation. “I would understand and book my own accommodation,” the author wrote, asking other Reddit users to share their advice and opinions on the delicate situation.

Many commentators questioned the bride-to-be’s true motives, suggesting she might be using the lack of accommodations as an excuse to cut back on her guest list.

“Her reasoning makes no sense,” one person wrote, while another chimed in: “I think she invited way more people than she could accommodate and didn’t think that many people would actually show up for her overseas wedding.”

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Others wondered why the bride’s guests were not given the option to stay overnight off-site or nearby. “It’s common practice for overseas weddings for some guests to stay on-site (such as immediate family and bridal party) while others stay off-site and still attend the on-site event. It doesn’t make sense at the moment why it’s all or nothing and puts you in a very awkward position,” one person commented.

Another person asked, “Are there no hotels or Airbnbs in the area?” To this question, the author replied, “There are plenty of them. That’s why I’m confused.”

One commenter assured the poster that they shouldn’t be embarrassed by the wedding situation. “You shouldn’t be embarrassed in the slightest, but your friend should be horrified. What you did is incredibly rude,” they wrote. “It’s fine to let you all know that the hotel building is unexpectedly full and that she would understand if you couldn’t attend due to the circumstances, but to tell you all outright not to come is beyond rude.”

Quite a few urged the poster to make the best of the situation, forget about the wedding and instead enjoy a “getaway” in Asia. “Keep your tickets, have a great vacation and forget about her,” suggested one Redditor.

“I would still travel to Asia and spend a vacation and an experience there,” added another person.