A groom did not like his pushy father and stepmother – so he withdrew the wedding invitation.

In a post on the popular Reddit forum “Am I The A——,” a user explained that he and his fiancée mutually uninvited his father and stepmother from the wedding after they insisted on a mother-son dance despite the bride and groom’s disinterest.

The groom, 26, said they have dispensed with some traditions, including the bride’s father walking her down the aisle and father-daughter or mother-son dances during the reception.

Instead, they plan to walk down the aisle as a couple and only perform their first dance.

The problem arose when the groom’s stepmother – who had married his father when he was six and became his primary caregiver a few years later after his mother died – asked for an exception, regardless of the couple’s wishes.

The groom told his stepmother that even if the dance took place, he would not consider it a traditional mother-son dance, but rather a stepmother-stepson dance. She expressed her hurt at this remark and kept bringing up the subject, which angered him.

Finally, the groom’s father intervened and tried to persuade the groom to make an exception.

The groom asked his father and stepmother not to bring up the subject again, but they kept doing so. He and the 25-year-old bride agreed that if the subject came up again, they would withdraw their invitation.

When they later discussed the dance again, the groom informed them that they were no longer invited to the wedding because they had overstepped their boundaries. The groom added that the couple was not funding the wedding and had no control over what happened and what didn’t happen.

The angry father and stepmother told the groom that he was “making a big mistake and turning into someone they didn’t like before their eyes.”

“My stepmom asked me if I really preferred that they weren’t with us, but rather that we were just having a simple one-on-one dance where she could feel for a moment that she was more than just my stepmom,” the poster wrote. “I told her I would prefer that and it was her own fault that she didn’t stop asking.”

Several people have chimed in in the comments to assure the groom that he was not wrong in asking his father and stepmother to respect their wishes. “You overstepped the boundaries and now you have to live with the consequences. You should have accepted the first no and let it go. You have no one to blame but yourself,” one person wrote.

Another added: “What a sad situation. I understand it’s your wedding and it’s ultimately your decision. They obviously pressured you into doing something you didn’t want to do and you were fed up with it. But I feel sorry for your stepmother, your father, your siblings and you.”

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Another commenter chimed in, noting that they had danced with their stepdad at their own wedding and felt uncomfortable doing so. “I danced with my stepdad, who basically raised me since I was 3. We had our ups and downs, but I felt guilty not dancing with him (because) my husband danced with his mom. It was awkward and I hated every minute of it,” they shared.

A third person insisted that the bride and groom should always have the final say on what happens at their wedding, writing: “You don’t have to explain why you don’t want this, it’s your wedding and you can make it how you want. You were incredibly rude and inconsiderate and I don’t need to know anything else about your stepmother to know what kind of person she is.”